Monday, October 25, 2010

The Ministry of Friendship

This is something that I am particularly passionate about because I think it's one of the best ways to show God's love to people. Sometimes, if you are who they seek to lean on, you are the one that the Lord is using to comfort them. Isn't that cool! You can be God's tool to love others! :)

Here are some things that I have learned while trying to be a good friend:
1. Be quick to listen.
James 1:19:  My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry
Most often, your friends are not looking for you to dictate what they should be doing. They normally know the right answer. If you give them advice and they do not take it, then you could feel irritated and they may be embarrassed to come to  you with the same problem. This is not to say that you should not confront them when they are doing something harmful to themselves or others- but the point I am trying to make is allow them to talk things over with you without jumping in with solutions.

2. Encourage.
Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
Build up your friends, because this world is all about cutting others down in order to advance ourselves. Keep them accountable to their goals as well- it is also a form of building them up according to their needs. It's not always easy to confront a friend when they are doing something harmful to themselves, but necessary all the same.

3. Consider your motivations.
Matthew 7: 4-5: How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
Once I had a person come to me in a "loving confrontation." It really damaged me, and I thanked her for bringing it to my attention. It wasn't until I went to my husband, broken, that I realized that she was chewing me out to meet her own needs. There are times where our personal feelings to get in the way of our obligation to love. Examine your motivations before confronting or giving advice.

4. Love
Galatians 5:6: The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.
Keep love in your mind at all times.

54 comments:

By Word of Mouth said...

2 and 3 were huge discussions points in our house this week, especially with the upcoming elections ... lots of bad things coming out of people's mouths and most of it judgemental.
Big believers in judgement day being judgement by God and by God alone over here ... sadly many Christians miss this :(

Shanee said...

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The Penny-Wise Mama said...

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Such good words to remember. Popping over from SITS, I love your blog and plan to revisit often.

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Emma B. said...

This is a great post. I recently had a friend who seemed to be giving me advice for her own agenda instead of what was really best for me, so I had to make the decision to go against her advice since I knew it was wrong for me. She didn't like it, but I did what was best for me.

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Johnnie said...

Yay. Another blogging sister in Christ! Great post. I am a new follower from Friday's blog hops. I am looking forward to reading more of your blog. Blessings...
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Emma B. said...

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Renee Ann said...

Great post! Scripture always brings clarity to relationships. I stopped in to visit from the SITS girls site. Just noticed you on the list for the giraffe tribe!

Julie Petty said...

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I am blog hopping and found your blog. I am now following your blog. Would love for you to check out my blog and follow back!!

Living on Love and Cents said...

Hello! Thanks for linking up at Making Friends Monday! What a great blog! I am now following you! I look forward to reading more from you! Have a great week! !~Heather www.livingonloveandcents.blogspot.com

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Janine said...

Hi there. I found your blog on Wednesday Wonderings bloghop and so love what your blog stands for. I too love Jesus and it is such a joy to follow other blogs who are out there to encourage and reveal the loving heart of our awesome Jesus. I am loving what I am reading.

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Following from the blog hop. Hope you can follow back.
God Bless,
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Janet - AKA: Latte Lady said...

I really like your blog! Glad I found you at the hop.

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Janet - AKA: Latte Lady said...

Hey, how did you get your background to look like paper? I made my header and would like to add a side wrapper similar to this.

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BabyDealsDujour said...

Beautifully written, i look forward to reading more!

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eof777 said...

Stopping by and following your blog from the F.F.F. blog hop...
Have a happy holiday season!
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Vivian said...

Needed to hear this today, thanks

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Lauren said...

Thank you so much for this post. I've been backpedaling in my relationship with God for some time now, even though I kept denying it. Just last night, crying on my pillow, did I realize how far I'd walked without Him, all along telling myself every morning as I got ready for my day that I was in a good way with God, and really I wasn't. I still believed and I still loved, but I wasn't being true to Him or myself, and that's something that just hit me last night, and what's so bad is that the one person that could really help me, I haven't even told yet, but I'm making a point to write my friend a letter today to let her know how I've been feeling lately and why. Thanks again for this post. I've been needing a dose of spiritual comfort and refreshment.

Cinnamon said...

What great advice. Wish all potential friends would read...Kind of like a handbook for friendship.

Stopping by from LBS

H.H. said...

Really wonderful post. As Van Gogh said, "The best way to know God is to love many things." And I define things to mean people.

You were my first cup of tea at the LBS Tea Party. =-)

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leaving some follow and comment love from the Monday Mingle. Thanks for your positive inspiration. http://blog.fit2b.us

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Love this! I'm a new follower from the Wednesday blog hop. I hope you'll stop by & follow me back!

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Alida said...

Powerful and wise words for us all... thanks for this post. Sadly so many of us as Christians fail at being a good friend. I pray that changes and that like your blog title Love will win.

Joy & Blessings to you and your family in the coming year!

Alida from Blackpurl's Knitpickings

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shopannies said...

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Kate said...

I'm your newest follower from FTLOB! :) I hope you'll stop bye and visit.

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